Movement, Resistance and Push-Through: Courage for Three Phases of Life
You’ve gotten that promotion you’ve been waiting for. The baby you’ve been dreaming of for the past year has just been born. You’ve landed that new job. You’ve moved into a brand-new house (or at least new to you). Perhaps, you’ve lost a loved one or have gone through a divorce. Whatever the circumstance, change is here.What’s next? Now you’ve jumped that hurdle, but where do you go from here?
You are entering the new normal, at least for a while.
There are some common phases for this thing we call LIFE. Movement. Resistance. Push-Through. Where are you?
There is always that endless prophetic word about a shift or a breakthrough coming. That’s not necessarily prophetic. Those are normal courses of life. Something is always changing and there is an ebb and flow of movement, resistance and push-through, and, you guessed it, repeat.
Some of us just pushed through into a new place and in some senses, we are starting over again. Some haven’t quite pushed through and are in the resistance phase. The resistance phase of the season of life you are in looks like delays, setbacks, brokenness or some type of stuck-ness. Then comes the push or the breakthrough. Then you start the pattern all over again with movement.
Recently, in a conversation with a friend, we were discussing boredom. You know, that time when you find yourself at the top of your game in a certain stage of life or environment, yet, you’re bored. Maybe it’s a job you’ve become overqualified for. Maybe it’s a church where you’ve come to a point where you don’t feel like your gifts are being utilized. Maybe it’s a particular friend group where you don’t quite feel like you fit in anymore and you find your thoughts floating somewhere outside of the group’s “think”. It’s that season when you aren’t being challenged personally.
Boredom can be a great motivator. Have you ever considered that boredom could be an indicator that you are not living up to your highest calling? Perhaps instead of following, you are supposed to be innovating and creating, leading? Perhaps, God, in his mysterious language is leading you and prompting you to make a change bringing you closer to him and what he has called you to.
A business consultant to our corporation once told my husband that he was unemployable, not because he isn’t qualified to be a great employee, but because he was wired for something else. He thinks differently and operates in a different manner He told him that some people are CEOs at heart and that someone who is made to be a CEO doesn’t play well with others as an employee, CEOs are just not built that way. CEOs are built to lead and create, not just to follow and perform according to the status quo. The consultant said it isn’t a right or a wrong thing it just is how it is, and people are made how they are made. The best thing to do is just embrace it and understand what you are wired for and live from it. It was good insight considering the context of a much larger conversation.
The consultant was absolutely right. Some of us don’t understand who we are, and we will continue to go from thing to thing feeling unsatisfied and out of our element. The cycle of floating will leave us feeling defeated, exhausted and bored. We aren’t built to mindlessly wander. The wandering could be a sign of a much deeper wound that is in need of healing but often it’s a natural course of discovery of who we are and finding ultimately who we belong to and where we should be.
I am writing this today because I feel as if it is a timely word for so many. I am writing for three people falling into these phases in order that you may find courage right where you are.
I’m writing to the ones who are in the movement phase. You are in a time of tremendous growth and activity. This seems a whole new world, full of sights and new sounds. New people and new life situations are bringing both joy, and new opportunities. Enjoy it all. Learn all you can. Be yourself. Expect great things. Treat people well. Leave things better than you found them. Create long-lasting foundations. Live purposefully.
I am writing to the ones who are in the resistance phase. You are in a time that seems like it will last forever. It will not. All the things that seem to be coming against you right now are temporary. Remain grounded. Everything isn’t personal. You can do this. Choose joy. Expect good things. Don’t lose your confidence. Ask questions. Take notes. Revaluate your self talk. Develop communication skills. Seek counsel from those who have traveled this road who came out strong. Ask for help.
I am writing to the ones who are in the push-through phase. You are in a time of increased intensity. Things can go either way at this stage of the game. Carry light baggage. Leave behind what can’t go to the next level. Maintain relationships. Love people where they are. Be free of the past. Dare to dream. Pick your battles. Maintain integrity. Operate from peace. Keep your eyes wide open for God to speak to you and lead you in a different direction. Imagine the possibilities in the coming season of movement.
To all of the ones in every phase: LOVE BIG. HOPE MORE. SPREAD THE JOY.
Psalm 31:24 Be strong and let your heart take courage. All you who hope in the Lord. (NASB)
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