New Alignments and Fresh Assignments

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New Alignments and Fresh Assignments

·      Are you wondering why you’re daydreaming of greater things?

·      Do you have a sense of no longer fitting into a slot that seemed perfectly suited for you before?

·      Are you concerned when you’re with people you’ve built a career or ministry with, but something feels off?

·      Do things that made sense before no longer appear to be reasonable?

·      Is there a feeling of an upward motion, lifting you up allowing the wind to carry you elsewhere?

It may be time for new alignments and fresh assignments.

I don’t think I am alone in this.

Recently, a friend sent me a text. “Thank you for pushing past the old and being obedient to walk into the new. God’s purpose for you here is unfolding.” She expressed what my heart was already feeling, though, I wasn’t able to articulate it.

Did it seem as though it were a new alignment and a fresh assignment? No. I suppose it didn’t need to. I was going with the flow and honoring the prompting with no pressure to perform or make things happen for myself. I cannot always see what is happening at the time it is happening. Looking back over the last year or so, I can see now what I will call “the God-Moves.”

The God-Moves

You’ve heard it said, “God moves in mysterious ways.” Yes, He does. And what it often means in plain English is, you don’t know what the heck is happening to you and why things are the way they are. Sometimes they aren’t seeming to be good things either.

The truth is He was setting me up and I didn’t know it. He was preparing a specific space, in a particular place. He was sending me to a people to love and be loved. He was aligning me with new faces and bringing me into community with a family I had not previously known. It’s a new alignment.

God had been operating in his God-Moves behind the scenes to open a door for me with hearts who celebrate what I bring to the collective table. And I truly desire what they carry and celebrate the uniqueness of the community in which I find myself. He paired me up with new partners. We have an assignment.

Does this mean I disappear and abandon my old friends, mantles and mandates? No. I love and honor those people and times. I have ongoing relationships. I am honoring God by following his lead in the mantles and mandates. It’s means the smaller-picture purpose appears differently than in previous seasons. The smaller-picture purpose operates in a variety of frameworks in any given season.

The Big-Picture and the Smaller-Picture Purpose

The big-picture purpose is fulfilled by the smaller-picture steps. It’s called stewardship. How we care for the people and accomplish the goals set before us leads to the big-picture purpose and destinies fulfilled. Process is precious.

Trusting God and His moves keeps us from getting stuck in seasons we are no longer in. Otherwise, you’ll be wearing a winter coat when you should be wearing a bikini.

If you don’t hop on the God-Train and see the pictures and purposes in their context, you will find yourself in difficulty.

If you don’t align with the proper people in the right season, you will end up feeling lonely in a crowded room.

If you don’t embrace the new assignment, you’ll begin to question your value.

If you don’t recognize the big-picture, smaller-picture view, you will begin to wonder whether or not you are in God’s perfect will.

How Do You Know It’s Time for Alignments and Assignments to Shift?

·      You may find yourself with people you don’t celebrate and don’t celebrate you.

·      You may find yourself doing tasks that aren’t fulfilling.

·      You may find yourself struggling with anxiety or depression about the future.

·      You may find yourself in stale places feeling suffocated.

·      You may find yourself lacking joy and direction.

These aren’t Negative Nancy statements or prophetic declarations of doom and gloom. These are merely a hint as to what may be happening in your very human heart.

The only true way to gauge where you are on the journey is inquire of the Lord.

When David inquired of the Lord, he was given strategic plans in 1 and 2 Samuel. If you inquire of the Lord, I am sure He will let you in on His secrets too.

When individual pieces of a puzzle come together, they create a greater picture. So do the pieces of your life.

Embrace the new alignments and fresh assignments and watch what happens.

Copyright © 2019 Toni Imsen. All Rights Reserved.  

 

 

 

The Mother Wound: How It's Affecting You

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Healing the Mother Wound

We were in a group sitting in a circle, 6 of us, both men and women. My heart was crying for this woman next to me. Inside of me was a voice screaming, “this woman has a gaping wound and she is bleeding all over the place and onto people who have never cut her.”

I’ll call her Belinda (a fictional name I’ll give her for privacy purposes). Belinda was describing her estranged relationship with her father. She was in her 60’s now but was describing how her stepmother had caused a strain in the relationship with her father by controlling every interaction and conversation or visit she had with her own father. The stepmother had not liked her even when she was young and had mistreated her horribly. Belinda was one who was now shut down emotionally and mentally.

Belinda was saying that she wondered why she struggled with relationships. She had struggled with friendships, marriages and other significant relationships. When she was at work, she struggled to perform for her bosses, wrestling with anxiety whenever they asked her for something on a deadline. She felt she had to do everything perfectly or she would fear being punished. Belinda was successful and competent, yet in her own mind, she just wasn’t good enough. 

There is a Culprit. It’s Called the Mother Wound

The mother wound is a hurt that is caused when a mother or another female figure in our life causes us harm. It can be a physical, an emotional, a mental wound, or spiritual abuse. The wound can be caused when a mother is absent, critical, ignorant and disconnected from us.

Whether a mother does these things willingly, or not. Mothers can be absent on a heart level even though they are physically with us. Mothers can die at strategic points in time in our lives. Mothers can be victims in their own lives through domestic violence or other types of abuse. Mothers can be uneducated or lack the kind of nurturing we needed. For whatever reason we feel we are not loved or are neglected, it translates to other parts of our lives, whether or not we know what is happening.

The mother wound can manifest itself in many ways and we often do not recognize the symptoms. We may carry the mother’s issues on into our own lives with our own children. We may be disconnected. We may lack empathy. We may not be able to process emotions in a healthy way. We may not be able to communicate well or stay in ignorance. We may be ones who come under the bondage of continual comparison and competition with others. We may fear authorities or be extremely critical of ourselves and others.

In terms of the spiritual realm, the mother wound reveals itself in the way we connect with Holy Spirit. Just as the way we view and interact with Father God is a reflection of our relationship with our natural fathers, there is a similar effect with mothers and Holy Spirit. As a side note, the way we act and react with Jesus is often a reflection of our relationships with siblings and friends.

What it looks like practically with Holy Spirit is this:

  1. You may not trust Holy Spirit.

  2. You may consider Holy Spirit to be harsh, apathetic or cruel.

  3. You may believe Holy Spirit is absent or distant.

  4. You may blow of Holy Spirit altogether.

  5. You may not honor Holy Spirit as having equal authority with Jesus and Father God.

  6. You may not be able to “hear” God like other people.

  7. You may consider Holy Spirit to be unapproachable.

  8. You may not experience Holy Spirit like you’ve read in the Bible

The list could go on, but I think you get the point. If these symptoms sound familiar to you, you are not alone. Most everyone has some mother issue that brings us into places of brokenness between people, ourselves and God.

 The GOOD NEWS is, it’s healable.

I believe when we address the mother wound, we can be healed and made whole. We can be more connected with people and with the Godhead. Not only can we be healed in our own body, soul and spirit but we can heal others.

Truly, I believe we can heal cities, regions, nations and the world.

 I believe we can bring an end to abortion, reconcile with those who have been broken by racism, sexual abuse and more. Healing the mother wound can have tremendous impact on an individual and in a culture.

 We live in a time of great need and crisis. Would you dare to believe that healing the mother wound could change the world as we know it?

 Recently, I had the opportunity to offer this prayer before a group of prayer leaders. I was surprised to see how touched they were when I prayed something similar to this over a team of 40-ish.

 There are a few examples of prayers of repentance in scripture that bring healing to generations and to lands (Leviticus 26:40-46, Daniel 9).

 

In Ezekiel it says this:

Ezekiel 20:30 I looked for someone among them who would build up the wall and stand before me in the gap on behalf of the land so I would not have to destroy it, but I found no one. (NASB)

 You can stand in the gap.

This scripture tells me that we can stand in the gap, meaning we can fill in the missing places and build on the behalf of others to prevent destruction and restore broken places. Nehemiah also offers a picture of this building of walls for protection.

Here I want to offer this prayer of repentance on behalf of mothers who have harmed you. You can heal and begin to function in healthy ways bringing healing to our world. You can offer this to someone in need or have someone do this with you.

Forgive Me as A Mother

“I know I have failed you.

Forgive me for having profoundly disappointed you. I am sorry that I have not been the mother to you that you needed. Please forgive me for not having mothered you appropriately, gently or kindly. Please know in my heart, I choose you.

I know I have not nurtured you.

Forgive me for having failed to nurture you in deep places. I am sorry for not answering your cries. Please forgive me for not providing a safe place for you to express yourself and be who you are without condemnation. Please accept the comfort you deserve.

 

I know I have been critical of you.

Forgive me for my words that have wounded you. I am sorry that I have used words that have caused you harm and did not encourage you. Please forgive me for the negative words and actions that have come from me. Please know I am for you.

 

I know I have not recognized you.

Forgive me for not acknowledging you. I am sorry that I have not heard you or have seen you. Please forgive me for not valuing your accomplishments. Please know that I see you and celebrate who you are.

 

I know I have not taught you.

Forgive me for not teaching you ways to navigate your life. I am sorry that I have not given you tools and information that could have helped you live a better experience in the world. Please forgive me for my ignorance and lack of understanding. Please know you bring value to every arena you find yourself.

 

I know I have not processed emotion with you.

Forgive me for not having grieved with you when you were sad. I am sorry that I have not expressed joy with you when you were happy. Please forgive me for not processing connection, trust and transparency with you. Please know I love you with my laughter and my tears.

 

I know I have been absent.

Forgive me for abandoning you. I am sorry that I have not been present either physically or emotionally for you. Please forgive me for not expressing my heart for you and experiencing life with you. Please know that you are not alone, and you are significant.

 

I know I have not modeled life well.

Forgive me for not being the best role model. I am sorry that I have not built confidence inside of you. Forgive me that I have not taught you how to relate to the opposite sex or the same sex appropriately. Please know that you can have healthy relationships and experience deep love.

 

Will you forgive me?”

 

If this strikes a chord with you and you have not yet forgiven those who have harmed you (this can be an aunt, a coach, a teacher or other female figure), you can do so now. You can begin to heal.

 

You can begin the process by choosing to acknowledge and forgive today. God is gracious and compassionate, begin by receiving His love and connecting to his heart for you.

 Note from Toni:

Disclaimer: I am not a licensed medical doctor, psychiatrist, or professional clinical psychologist. I have been a licensed and ordained minister specializing in prayer ministry. My writings are based on my personal experience working with people in various capacities bringing spiritual transformation to individuals and groups. The views expressed here are my own personal views, opinions, observations and experiences over the past few decades. My blog posts do not necessarily represent the views of organizations I am currently working with or have been a part of in the past. I have been trained extensively in various settings by experienced leaders. I have trained others interested in spiritual healing in various platforms, using a variety of methods. Stories of individuals are used by permission and/or details have been changed in order to provide anonymity for the purpose of dignity and privacy.

Copyright © 2019 Toni Imsen. All Rights Reserved.